Once upon a time the bride would plan "her" wedding, likely a day she had planned for and dreamed about for years. The groom's only task -- aside from writing checks and splitting costs with the bride's father -- would be to show up on the right day.
Times have changed, and weddings have, too. Planning a wedding is less a girly task for the bride, her mother and her friends to take on, and more of a partnership between two adults who both have opinions and plans about what their dream wedding will look like. Now grooms often want to accept an active role in planning alongside their chosen brides.
Planning a wedding with a groom who is very interested in the details can be both tricky and rewarding, and the end result will be an event that marries the tastes of two people together in more ways than one.
The Keys to Peace When Planning for Your Wedding With Your Partner
- Be open to new things. Perhaps it never crossed your mind to have a tiki bar or orchids. Maybe a certain color scheme is a key part of your partner's dream wedding. When planning with a partner, you need to be open to considering their tastes and preferences, and figure out ways to implement them into the event so you can both have the wedding you dream of.
- Know when to compromise. Compromise is going to have to be a big part of wedding planning, just as it will be a big part of a happy marriage. Know when to compromise, but also have some expectation that your partner will meet you halfway and be willing to give in on some things as well.
- Stand firm when something means the world to you, but also understand when something means the world to your future spouse. If there is one thing that really matters to you, do not be afraid to make it non-negotiable. It may mean giving up something else in the design of the wedding, but regrets after the event can lead to resentment that is not good for any relationship. Be up front if some thing matters a lot -- and find out what's most important to your future spouse, too.
Planning a perfect wedding that marries the tastes of two different people can be great practice for those times in a marriage when compromise may be necessary -- and for figuring out when standing your ground and standing up for yourself matters, too. It is also great practice for designing your dream home with your partner's needs in mind.
After all, when you plan to spend a lifetime with another person, the little things matter.